Entitled woman flips out at gender reveal after finding out she's having a boy, sister refuses to comfort her and faces the backlash of her family: 'My sister's temper tantrum saddened me'

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Nov 5, 2024 1:00 PM EST

Gender reveals are always a dubious idea. At worst, they literally start wildfires. At best, they're random celebrations. I sort of understand wanting to event-ize finding out the chromosomal makeup of your baby, but if that's the case, then you have to prepare yourself for either option. You can't be disappointed in the news if you're going to find out in a public setting. You're setting yourself up for failure. Crying at your own gender reveal is like crying at your own vow renewal. Nobody told you you had to have this party, it's just an excuse to have a party, so you don't get to be upset about how it goes. 

But one woman didn't quite internalize that and made quite the scene at her gender reveal. And then she also made the mistake of terrorizing her own sister about her behavior. Read on for the story and decide what you would have done. 

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    AITA for walking out of my sister's baby gender reveal party?
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    My sister (37f) is expecting her first child and she decided to throw a gender reveal party to find out if they were having a boy or girl. We're not that close. She's a decade older than me (27f) and we're very different people so it's not a great combo. Plus my sister can be kind of spoiled and entitled. But still we're family and I knew my family would expect me to be there for this occasion so we (husband was also invited) went.
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    Some brief background... I have been pregnant four times but I have no living. children. Three ended in miscarriage. One ended with my baby being stillborn. My stillborn child should be 1 now. But we don't get to see them grow up. My husband and I have taken a break to heal so we can be healthy parents if we are lucky enough to have more children.
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    When we got there it looked very much like they knew they were having a girl. There was so much pink. SO much. No blue. Which left us wondering why the gender reveal. When the time came for the reveal everyone found out my sister is expecting a boy. Her reaction. was the reason I left. She got so hysterical and furious and she cursed and screamed that she wanted a girl, she was supposed to be having a girl
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    and who the f was punishing her this way. Her husband looked equally upset by the reveal. I heard him say it was all bulls and what a waste. My sister's temper tantrum saddened me and honestly sickened me as someone who would do anything for a child to raise. So we quietly left. But it was noticed.
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    My sister asked what the we ran off for without comforting her and I told her I could not. That her reaction was not something I could understand. She told me to save her from the outrage and how dare I judge her when she has every right to be upset her dream is ended and she's now left figuring out what to do with a boy. I told her given the losses I had faced I could not understand and I ended the call. She texted me saying I was a terrible sister. Then my parents called me to say I should hav
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    Comfortable-Sea-24... 21h ago • NTA > My sister's temper tantrum saddened me and honestly sickened me as someone who would do anything for a child to raise. So we quietly left. But it was noticed. I don't understand either your sister's reaction or your parents.
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    > Then my parents called me to say I should have stayed and waited for any feelings until after. They also told me I should just be there for my sister now. That she's going through something I don't understand. What your parents said is totally beyond belief. You and your husband would give anything to have a living, healthy child and your sister through a tantrum because she is having a boy. Your sister and parents are massive A- H's!!!
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    CricketApart2018 OP 20h ago • • I don't either. I never expected my parents to back her on this and I can't believe my sister's reaction was so extreme. To do so in a public way also.
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    kiwimuz 20h ago • NTA. Your sister has some definite entitlement issues and throwing a tantrum like a toddler proves she has yet to grow up and be an adult. Other family members supporting her behaviour will only make your sister believe that her narcissistic view on things is right. I'd cut off the lot of them if this is the way they choose to act.
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    CricketApart2018 OP. 20h ago • I will be taking some time from my family, that's a guarantee.
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    owls_and_cardinals • 20h ago. I also think there is something disturbing and toxic to all the family enabling and supporting this response. Regardless of OP's personal history or why this reaction by the sister is incredibly childish, insensitive, and selfish, what does it really mean for this poor child, and why isn't the rest of the family more concerned about this? NO ONE should have been comforting OP's sister or brother-in-law; everyone should have been rejecting this response and shaming h
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    Rutabaga Curious3279 20h ago • • NTA. Totally understand your point of view. Sounds like she's the golden child. Maybe it's time to put some distance between you and them for a little while.
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    • Cricket Apart2018 OP 20h ago • I wouldn't say golden child but right now they are definitely defending her more than I expected. I thought my parents would be disappointed in her reacting like she did. Not being sad but the anger.
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    • Purple_Maize536 20h ago • NTA you lost every child you got pregnant with and here your sister should be glad she's going to be having a healthy baby. I would have left after that too regardless because who reacts like that to their baby's gender reveal?? She shouldn't have put all her eggs in a basket thinking it was a girl. I hope she doesn't grow to resent the boy as I see in other posts since she really wanted a girl. Hope you are doing okay.
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    Pesec1 20h ago • • NTA. You wouldn't be an a h le if you never even tried to have children and walked out simply because you didn't want to deal with that insane temper tantrum. Like, she knew there was about 50% chance that it would be a boy. If she wasn't prepared to handle that quite likely outcome, she is sure at not prepared to handle a child of either
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    dirtynerdy585 . 20h ago. ΝΤΑ Let me guess they probably have a recording of this attention seeking party too so one day their son can see how disappointed mommy was over him being a boy. If you wouldn't be happy with either gender don't throw a reveal party so you can process your emotions appropriately away from others.
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    Your feelings are 1000% valid and it's sad your sister can't appreciate the gift of so far having a healthy pregnancy/baby.
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    daffodilsx . 20h ago. I've never been pregnant, not planning of having children like ever and I would've walked away all the same. NTA, and I'm really sorry for your losses. Children aren't toys to play with, they're human beings. What your sister is going through is called 'not being mature enough to be a parent', unfortunately it's not easy to fix considering she's almost 40 and not 12.
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    Jax011 20h ago ΝΤΑ • You did what was right for you and your husband. I would LC with your sister and parents Her reaction is pretty horrible
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    Sami_George • 20h ago • I don't like gender reveals. But even so, why would you have one when there's a 50/50 shot of serious disappointment? When I was pregnant, my husband and I were certain it was a girl. No real reason, just a feeling. Turns out we were wrong. We got the call from the test and
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    guess what? We were still thrilled. There was a slight gender disappointment simply because we were so certain and we had a name picked out, but that lasted all of two minutes and didn't escalate beyond, "oh dang, we were wrong... oh well!" Your sister is being absolutely ridiculous and even if you didn't have the experiences you had, you would've been right to leave.
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    Her behavior is ridiculous and she shouldn't have a reveal if there was any chance of this extremely disappointed reaction. I hope she bounces back for the sake of her son.
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